Family Studies 1015A/B Lecture 22: dialectics

• School: Western University
• Department: Family Studies
• Course: Family Studies 1015A/B
• Professor: Bridget Demachi

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Opposing motivations dialectics, that can never be completely satisfied because they contradict each other. fulfill one goal may endanger another one. People want to be free to do what they want (independent) but also seek warm, close connection to others (dependent). Intimacy involves self-disclosure, share their thoughts with one another but like privacy, something wants to keep to themselves. People with pleasant relationship want to maintain, keeping things the way they are. But also relish novelty and excitement, too much stagnant predictability becomes monotonous. ( attract to both new and familiar) The motive to stay involved with other people is sometimes at odds with the wish to devote oneself to a romantic partnership. Hard to find a satisfying ratio of time spent with and apart from other people. These four dialectics typically continue to some degree throughout the entire life of a relationship. The dilemmas posed by fluctuating, opposing motives in close relationships never end.