FRHD 2280 Lecture Notes - Lecture 8: Peer Pressure, Parenting Styles, Flowchart
18 Oct 2016
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Week 8: Peers and Family
Tuesday, March 8th 2016
Review Question: In emerging adulthood, the effects of parental divorce are most evident in
greater problems in which area of life?
Answer: Forming close romantic relationships
Peers Vs. Friends
➔ Peers
◆ people who have certain aspects of their status in common
◆ In social science: people of similar age
➔ Friends
◆ People you share a valued, mutual relationship with
◆ Provide a bridge between the close attachments young people have with their
parents and the close attachment they will one day have with their intimate
partners
➔ Question: What does it take to change somebody from a peer to a friend?
◆ Time spent together
◆ Common interests
➔ Video: Big Bang Theory - How to make friends
◆ Flow chart used to show how to make friends
◆ Struggles finding a common interest
Family & Friends
➔ Youth becomes closer to their peers while the time spent with parents decreases
➔ Time spent with family decreases in half between 5th and 9th grade
➔ From 9th to 12th grade, time spent with opposite sex friends increases
◆ The beeper test methodology was used
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Adolescents’ Discussion of Topics
➔ Their friends understand them more
➔ They are more likely to talk to their friends rather than their parents regarding personal
problems
Changing Relationships
➔ Who provides you with the most emotional support?
◆ 4th graders: Parents
◆ 7th graders: Parents & same gender friends
◆ 10th graders: Same gender friends
◆ University students: Romantic partners
The Role of Parents
➔ Quality of relationship with parents has an impact
➔ Direct and indirect influences
◆ Pool of peers
◆ Communicate approval or disapproval
◆ Parenting Styles
Why Friends?
➔ “I can tell my friends anything and they will understand”
➔ “Close friends accept me for who I really am”
➔ “A close friend has emotions just like mine”
Mood Changes: Positive
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Mood Changes: Negative
➔ Friends are also the source of adolescents’ most negative emotions
◆ Anger, sadness, anxiety
➔ Emotional vulnerability, insecurity
➔ Triangles, alliances, hierarchies
◆ Different, confusing social structures
Traditional Cultures
➔ ↑ Time with peers
➔ ↓ Time with parents
◆ Developmental
➔ Gender Differences: Family and peer relationships
◆ Boys: Friends and Peers
● Still spend more time with family compared to Western boys
◆ Girls: Same sex adults
➔ Social and emotional balance tilts toward family
➔ Closeness to family AND friends
Developmental Changes: Intimacy
➔ The degree to which two people share:
◆ Personal Knowledge
◆ Thoughts
◆ Feelings
● 4th graders focus more on background information such as telephone
number, grade, etc. and base friendship on those characteristics
➔ Importance of intimacy increases in early adolescence
◆ Perspective taking
● The capacity of being aware of your own point of view and it’s origin and
the ability to decide whether or not to express your opinion
● Allows you to also understand the perspective of others
● Developed through our cognitive development but friendships help these
capacities grow
◆ Empathy
◆ Identity formation
● Friends help individuals form their identity
○ ex. study where adolescents asked their friends to edit their
facebook pages
● More likely to disclose personal problems with friends
● Trust and loyalty are important factors
➔ Emerging Adulthood
◆ Importance of self disclosure increases and shared activities decrease
◆ Gender Differences
● Men: Shared activities
● Women: Self disclosure
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Document Summary
People who have certain aspects of their status in common. In social science: people of similar age. People you share a valued, mutual relationship with. Provide a bridge between the close attachments young people have with their parents and the close attachment they will one day have with their intimate partners. Video: big bang theory - how to make friends. Flow chart used to show how to make friends. Youth becomes closer to their peers while the time spent with parents decreases. Time spent with family decreases in half between 5th and 9th grade. From 9th to 12th grade, time spent with opposite sex friends increases. They are more likely to talk to their friends rather than their parents regarding personal problems. 7th graders: parents & same gender friends. Quality of relationship with parents has an impact. I can tell my friends anything and they will understand . Close friends accept me for who i really am .
