HDFS 1070 Lecture Notes - Lecture 20: Informal Learning, Personal Relationships
23 Jan 2017
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Early Adulthood
- entry into a stage and exit out of a stage is not defined by years it’s defined by
psychological stage
- begins in adolescents, lasting longer because you need to know more to get into
adulthood, economically your have to be dependent longer, and we live longer lives
- somewhere in your mid to late 20s - still a lot of career exploration after you go to college
- need to get to a point where you’re sufficiently independent from your parents, reworked
relationships with others, less dependent on them for your approval
- this is who you are, this is what you want to do, this is what’s important to you
Work of adulthood – Developmental Tasks
● knowing yourself, maturity, gaining ego resources to take on adult roles
○ having maturity to commitment to the roles and responsibility of adulthood -
paying rent, working at your job, decisions of your lifestyle (marry? children?)
● Commitment to life’s work (career)
○ work that enables you to live independently and hopefully gives you a sense of
joy
○ adolescence is about exploration and experimentation, learning about yourself,
collecting information about job, having experiences that influence what you
decide to do for the rest of your life
● Shaping your dreams: mapping out a vision for the future
○ settling on a path they hope to follow, could be revised over time
● Find mentors
○ helps in settling on a path
○ a lot of informal learning that needs to take place from mentors
○ give us guidance on how to associate with people in our age range
Assumption is that Identity Work Leads to Maturity and Maturity is Necessary to Take
on Adult Roles and Responsibilities
- what is meant by a mature person vs. an immature person?
What is Maturity – Robert White
● Stabilizing of Identity
○ that a mature person has a good working model of the identity triangle (career,
lifestyle, and values)
○ not confused or question, stable view of identity triangle
● Freeing from Personal Relationships
○ individuation - not being so concerned about the approval and disapproval of
other, be willing to take authority and control over your life, in control of your life
● Deepening of Interests
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○ mature people are comfortable being interested in things and are committed to
their interest and are willing to express that to others
○ things you derive joy from
● Expansion of Caring
○ the more anxiety we have about ourselves and our identity, the less we have the
capacity to care for others/we are less capable of being responsive to others
○ we can’t be loving, caring, and a partner to others, can’t set aside our own needs
for others, can’t decenter
Psychosocial Tension/Crisis – tension revolves around developing a capacity for
LifeLong Intimacy
Erikson’s Crisis: Intimacy vs. Isolation
- In society we have a vested interest in repopulating and sustaining our society and this
is from adults being in stable relationships, mating, and caring for their young.
- Success of society is stable with the foundation of intimacy and bonding and the activity
that follows from it (family).
Intimacy – the ability to experience an open, supportive, tender relationship with another
without fear of losing one’s own identity in the process.
- I can be caring, supportive, generous, and loving with you without fear of losing my
identity in the process.
- The more you’re anxious about yourself the less you’re able to give to others.
- Not just what you experience, it’s reflected in experience and actions.
- being in love vs. being loving
Intimacy is characterized by several different abilities or capacities:
● Mutuality: the ability and willingness to regulate one’s needs in order to respond
to the needs of one’s partner
○ regulating your own emotion in order to be responsive to others
○ decentering - I need to pay attention to you not me in this moment
● Empathy: skill enabling us to connect with others that allows us to respond to
others i.e. if you have a problem it becomes their problem (product of fusion), if
like this then not allowed to have your moment to be taken care of
○ creates an intimate, emotional context for a relationship
○ communicate through your behavior that their thoughts and feelings matter
● Trust: the ability to be in a relationship and know they differentiate and meet your
needs
○ trust your needs will be met
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Document Summary
Entry into a stage and exit out of a stage is not defined by years it"s defined by psychological stage. Knowing yourself, maturity, gaining ego resources to take on adult roles. Having maturity to commitment to the roles and responsibility of adulthood - paying rent, working at your job, decisions of your lifestyle (marry? children?) Work that enables you to live independently and hopefully gives you a sense of joy. Adolescence is about exploration and experimentation, learning about yourself, collecting information about job, having experiences that influence what you decide to do for the rest of your life. Shaping your dreams: mapping out a vision for the future. Settling on a path they hope to follow, could be revised over time. A lot of informal learning that needs to take place from mentors. Give us guidance on how to associate with people in our age range.
