PSYC 420 Chapter 3: Week 3 self-esteem reading guide Murray
7 Sep 2018
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*must choose to risk substantial dependence on partner to fulfill basic needs of belonging (disclose self-doubt, seek support for personal weaknesses) Reading guide for murray"s risk regulation in relationships: self-esteem and the if-then contingencies . Situations of dependence where the partner"s responsiveness to one"s needs is in question. This model assumes that negotiating interdependent life requires a cog, affective, and behavioral regulatory system for resolving the conflict btwn the goals of self-protection and relationship-promotion. Regulating rejection risk requires appraisal, signaling or emotion and beh response rules. Appraisal: situations of dependence increase ppl"s need to gauge partner"s regard. Signaling: signal that detects discrepancies btwn current & desired appraisals. Beh response: assume that threat & social pain of rejection in turn shape ppl"s willingness to think/behave in ways that promote dependence and connectedness. It"s the perception that a partner perceives qualities in the self that are worth valuing. The contingency rule: if accepted or rejected, then internalize.
