CMS 315M Lecture Notes - Lecture 8: Pole And Polar, Selfishness
20 Mar 2017
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Ex. guy stretching his arms around the girl: life needs punctuation marks, rituals tell what"s going to happen, and we need that. Ex. parents who have been in jail when their kids are growing up will show people a photo album of their kid as their way of remembering. Relational contradictions: idealization vs. realization, when you first meet someone, you present your idealized self, realization knowing someone"s real self, when you"re first going out, you think everything is supposed to be perfect, dependence vs. Journey: relationships take work, people who think it will be perfect end up very unhappy over a period of time, case in point do things together, work through things together, love vs. Ex. are your parents in love or are they just roommates: altruism vs. selfishness, we want to do everything for the other person, but we feel we are being taken advantage of at some point, privacy vs.
