CMM 110 Lecture Notes - Lecture 10: John Gottman

• School: University of Hartford
• Department: Communication - A&S
• Course: CMM 110
• Professor: Desmond Rodger

Document Summary

Turning points in relationship development-leslie baxter: events that in uence direction if relationship trajectory> path of development created by turning point, assumption, contradictions, we make choices in communications, relationships are best studied by relation. Baxter-3 dialectical tension: the tension between being connected and being free, autonomy/connection (powerful, certainty/uncertainty (trust v. s surprise, openness/closeness (beyond self-disclosure)-there are other important topics in relationships. Examples: physical/emotional expression= increases, outside hobbies interfere=decrease, exclusivity=increase, getting a negative outlook = decreases. Reframing- so it isn"t about the money. Uncertainty reduction: research: we ask more questions earlier than they do later in the convo, later we self disclose more. We are trying to nd a way to reduce uncertainty in a effective and appropriate way. Lying: falsi cation: no i never , concealment sometimes i huge other guys , equivocation : not answering the question. making up another question in their head and answering that. Jealousy: maintain relationship, preserve self-esteem (avoid attractive people)