SOC 152A Lecture Notes - Lecture 24: Confidence Trick, Married People, John Gottman
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Lecture 24: love (cont. ) and points of love. Point #1 - if you want intimacy, set it as a primary goal. Don"t let it take a backseat to everything else, because it will escape you. Apply the hippocratic oath to your love life and relationships. You have to invest much more of yourself to have a full and rewarding relationship. The more you invest, the more you will have. Point #2: regarding the early meeting phase, make sure you avoid using fake masks and fake images of yourself. Masks get in the way of showing your true self. Fake images and masks can feel safer than honesty. Fake masks prevent honest communication, mislead your partner, and make it hard for you to switch honest communication later. Some people will walk away, but those who stay are the ones who value you.
