HDFS 1060 Lecture Notes - Lecture 28: Bird Feeder, Silent Treatment
29 Mar 2017
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Goals and the management strategies: goals show up in respective to what people are fighting about. It"s more important to understand the causes or motives behind conflict. These three show up no matter what people are fighting about. You can have conflict and still be very happy in your relationship. How we manage conflict shows the goals we bring to our communication. *pseudomutuality: means it appears as if they"re intimate or mutual but it"s false intimacy. Just agree, so anxious about conflict that they will do anything to stop it from occurring. Couples say that they never really fight but they"re both anxious. Avoid/win: i avoid and you wanna win. *complementary pattern: one person wants to win, the other person always gives in. Person who wants to win points fingers and demands compliance and the avoiding person always takes the blame and gives in to the other.
