FCST 100 Lecture Notes - Lecture 8: Emotion, John Gottman, Nonverbal Communication

• School: MSU
• Department: Family and Child Studies
• Course: FCST 100
• Professor: Van Eeden- Moorefield

Document Summary

Non-verbal is 80% and verbal is 20% What predicts happy and successful marriage ishow a couple resolves. Began in the early 1980s and studied more than 650 couples over time. Observations, questionnaires, and interviews (the love lab) their conflict attempt. Watch physical behaviors, test heart rates, etc. It does not matter if you actually resolve the problem, but the. Use paralinguistic cues (cid:523)hmm ) see head nodding(cid:524) ) feel when ) would like is . Let partner know that their thoughts are valid. Highly emotional, do not back up emotionally. Do not try to understand, try to persuade. Believe conflict is not important enough to work through a resolution. Which type of couples is most likely to divorce. Therapists used to believe that validating couples was the best. Gottman says that regardless of style, each couple has the same likeliness to succeed in a relationship. Gottman"s magic ratio couple the balance more often (hate due to sexuality)