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Communicating & connecting in relationships by james: peterson. The quote "in relationships, someone winning most often makes everyone a loser. This book reminded me of exactly how much i like to win in conversations. I had a friend whom i used to discuss all the time. In many cases, we would agree on the topic but purposefully chose opposite sides to see if we could argue the points successfully. Peterson reminded me that this is never good in communication. I have found myself trying to win conversations with my wife. The goal in contact should not be me winning the conversation because i talk better. I can remember a recent argument that was started where each of us became "flat brained" and entered the tango. Each of us fired some hurtful things toward the other and allowed it to escalate to the point that she told me to move out if i felt that way.
