COMM 245 Lecture 10: CHAPTER 10 COMMUNICATION IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS (Acio)
CHAPTER 10 COMMUNICATING IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
➢Communicating in Friendships
○Friendships are VOLUNTARY
■Peer: someone similar in power or status to oneself
■Friendships with non-peers are possible; but often are more challenging
○Friendships are governed by rules:
■Respect
■Caring
■Enjoyable
■Comfort
■Honesty
○Friendships differ by sex
■Men and women consider same-sex friends to be more loyal
■Same-sex friendships
●Men = value shared activity
●Women = value shared conversation
○Friendships have a life-span
■Role-limited interaction = Only talking to someone when at work
■Friendly relationships = Get to know each other more
■Moves toward = Go do something outside of work
■Nascent friendship = Blooming friendship
■Stabilized friendship = Feeling comfortable/confident in
■Waning friendship = Relationship starts to dissolve
●Reason 1: Friends grow to dislike each other
○Example: Best friends go to different colleges.
●Reason 2: Life circumstances can change
○Example: Your best friend dates your ex.
➢Communicating in Romantic Relationships
○Romantic relationships differ in how much they emphasize:
■Exclusivity = Committing to only that person
■Voluntariness = Choosing to be with that person
■Love
■Sexuality
■Permanence
○Fitzpatrick differentiates between marital types
■Traditional: Tend to go by traditional gender roles (Ex. Grandparents)
■Separate: Lead separate roles (Ex. Long distance relationships)
■Independent: Both independent and interdependent
Document Summary
Peer: someone similar in power or status to oneself. Friendships with non-peers are possible; but often are more challenging. Men and women consider same-sex friends to be more loyal. Role-limited interaction = only talking to someone when at work. Friendly relationships = get to know each other more. Moves toward = go do something outside of work. Waning friendship = relationship starts to dissolve. Reason 1: friends grow to dislike each other. Example: best friends go to different colleges. Example: your best friend dates your ex. Romantic relationships differ in how much they emphasize: Exclusivity = committing to only that person. Voluntariness = choosing to be with that person. Traditional: tend to go by traditional gender roles (ex. * conflict-avoiding : discuss disagreements covertly rather than openly. One wanting to be right over the other person. Families roles are the functions people serve in the family system. Placater = peace maker, stays on topic.
