PSYC*4160 Lecture 6: ShameAndSadness
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Involves putting someone down, holding them down, while rendering them helpless. When a person feels humiliated, they are not available for integrative conflict resolution. When condescension, patronizing, and arrogance are in any relationship, no transformation of a conflict is possible. Verbal forms of humiliation reflect a dominating style of communicating: fear of being overcome underlies the feelings of a bully. Sadness, mourning, and grief can strengthen social bonds. Grief increases the probability of surviving because of the ways that enduring bonds are form. Elevated feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety when people are depressed. A person who is overwhelmingly sad cannot take part in creative conflict resolution. Sadness can advance conflict resolution because no one wants to be sad all the time. Too little sadness expression leads to distorted emotional expression; too much sadness can burden others. Sad people are more likely to change their cognitive reappraisal or by apologizing or listening to music to elevate their mood.
