PSYC 362 Lecture Notes - Lecture 9: Neuroticism
13 Dec 2018
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A change whereby one becomes less motivated to think, feel, and behave negatively in regard to the offender (fincham) Implies a process that involves change over time, not a specific act. A person"s feelings, thoughts, motivations to be negative, hostility/ resentment toward offender decreases. It"s just removing awareness of offense from consciousness. One doesn"t need to believe the behavior is justified/ defensible. But, forgiveness means holding the person to account for their actions. It"s actually an additional step separate from forgiveness. With reconciliation, you"ve already forgiven the partner, and already restore the relationship to the way things were before the transgression occurred. Forgiveness facilitates this process but it is not necessary. Not the only model: impact stage. Injured partner learns of transgression, recognize effect on relationship. He shouldn"t have done that, that really hurt my feelings : meaning stage. Injured partner is making sense of what happened. Does she not love me anymore? : moving on stage.
